Myth: “Rape is not a big deal; it is only sex.”
Fact: Rape is
a big deal. It is a crime of
dominance and control using sex to express power and anger. Sex is between two consenting partners, while rape is an
aggressive act using sex as a weapon.
To be raped is to be violated and stripped of control and
self-determination.
Myth: “Rape only happens to teenagers or
young women.”
Fact: Rapists attack
infants, senior citizens and teens. They
attack women, men, girls and boys.
Myth: “Rape only happens if you ask for it.
Women who are provocative are the only victims of rape.”
Fact: Women’s
behavior is irrelevant. The
rapist chooses to rape and he is solely responsible for that choice.
To act provocative or to wear sexy clothing does not mean you are
asking to be raped. The
attitudes behind this myth betray a double standard.
According to this double standard, sexual feelings and expression
are acceptable for men, but unacceptable for women.
Myth: “Some women dream or fantasize about
being raped.”
Fact: A dream is not
reality. Dreaming about something does not mean you actually want to
be raped. Rape occurs when an
attacker takes control of a woman in reality.
Myth: “A woman cannot be raped if she keeps
her legs crossed or keeps moving. No man alone can rape a woman.”
Fact:
One man alone can
rape a woman and it is a common occurrence.
A man may use physical violence, threats, manipulation, confusion
or a weapon to force a woman to have sex with him.
Myth: “Most
rapes are inter-racial. Most rapes are committed by black men
against white women or white men against black women.”
Fact: About 80-90% of all
violent crimes against women are intra-racial; most rapists attack persons
of the same race. (1)
Myth: “Rape is committed by strangers.”
Fact: 77% of
completed rapes are committed by someone who is known to the victim (2)
and 90% of children under the age of 12 know their assailants (3).
A rapist may be a friend, family member, acquaintance, partner or
caretaker.
Myth: “Rapists are mostly psychotic men.
You can identify a rapist by the way he looks.”
Fact: Most rapists are men
with no obvious signs of mental illness.
In study after study, researchers are unable to find any
significant psychological difference between men who rape and men who do
not rape.
Myth: “Men rape
because they need sex.”
Fact: Men do not
rape because they need a sexual partner.
Men rape in order to humiliate and dominate a woman.
In fact, 75% of men who rape are either married or have regular
sexual partners. (3)
Myth: “Men who
rape other men are gay.”
Fact: Rape is an act of
control and domination, whether the chosen victim is male or female.
Rape is not a sexual act and it does not relate to sexual
orientation.
Myth: “Most rapes are spontaneous. A
man sees a woman and has to have her.”
Fact: Most rapes are
planned. A man may watch a particular woman for a while and try to
learn her daily routine. Many
men also test women’s reactions to hostile or sexual remarks to see if
they can intimidate her.
Myth: “It is
impossible for a man to rape his wife.”
Fact: A husband can rape
his wife and a boyfriend can rape is girlfriend.
Even if a woman has had consensual sex with someone in the past,
that person can rape her if he forces her to have sex when she does not
want to.
Myth: “Rape only happens if you are out on
the street late at night.”
Fact: Rapes occurs at all
times of the day and 6 our of 10 rape/sexual assault incidents occurred in
the survivor’s home or at the home of a friend, relative or neighbor.
(5)
Citations:
(1) U.S. Department of Justice, 1994.
Violence Against Women.
Rockville, Maryland: Bureau of Justice Statistics, U.S. Department
of Justice.
(2) Bureau of Justice Statistics. Sex Offenses and Offenders, 1997.
Washington, D.C.: U.S. Department of Justice.
(3) Greenfield, Lawrence a., 1997. Sex Offenses and Offenders: An Analysis of Data on rape
and Sexual Assault. Washington,
D.C.: Bureau of Justice Statistics, Office of Justice Programs, U.S.
Department of Justice.
(4) Greenfield, 1997. |
